Let's Talk Binuclear Family

Happy Wednesday and Happy New Year. We have officially entered into the year of 2020.  It is also Hump Day, which is one of my most favorite days of the week. The New Year is a time when a great majority of the world choose to reflect on the past year and even more so, a time to reflect on the past DECADE!!! 10 WHOLE YEARS! One thing that I've found true over the past 10 years and even in 2019 is that every person that I have encountered desired love and acceptance.  Did it look the same? No. Was it expressed the same? No. Yet, there was an inner desire that was the same. Now before we get all too mushy mushy, I want to let you know personally, that even when I met myself, yes you read it correctly, WHEN I MET MYSELF, I discovered that I desired the same. Over the past years, I've come to the realization that MOMMIN AIN'T NO CAKE WALK and STEP-MOMMIN AIN'T NO CAKE WALK either! Yet, Moms and Stepmoms both deserve to be loved. I know for some of you who...

Around 9 months ago, I began introducing my family to you. What many of you know and for those of you who do not know I am remarried with 2 children from a previous marriage. I also have 1 child with my Husband. Somewhere in between, I've buried 2 children and had a miscarriage. Some of you may be saying, “What a minute?” Or you may be scratching your head trying to figure out what I just said. Well, here it is, basically, I am remarried with 3 children. When my Husband and I decided to date, my son was only 3, he is now less than 6 months from 18 and my middle daughter was only 1. She will soon be 16. Too soon!!!! I'm not ready, she is my Vanilla Bean! Our family dynamics forced me to learn how to communicate in an effective manner with people who I honestly thought I would always hate, roll my eyes, and suck my teeth at. Come on now, some of you know what I mean. Let's just be honest, we were not always mature! Also, let truth be truth and say that it did no...

 HOW.ARE.YOU?  It’s been just a tad over a month since we chatted last and I’m super excited to share with you today. This is something that is very dear and near to me. But, before we dive in, can I tell you something, quickly?  I am I so glad that it is finally Spring. I’m looking forward to a good pedi, some flip flops, jeans, and a t-shirt. How about you? So now that I have that out of the way let’s dive in. Did you take notice of the picture? It’s so precious and like aw, right? Well, what you see in this picture is a molding of our sweet Gabby’s hand. Gabryle (pronounced Gabrielle) is her name. Gabryle Serene. She had such a calm and sweet spirit. Gabby was just 7 months old when she transitioned from Earth to her eternal home. In those 7 months of life and even inside of the womb she faced many challenges and with those challenges arrived this quiet and sudden day. On this particular day, I gathered the nerve and strength to tell my Husband, that I could ...

Hello Beautiful Ladies. It’s been about a month since we last spoke. Nevertheless, please let me first, thank you from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to tell you about that 1 time that I read my daughter’s personal journal. Your responses were amazing! 💓 There is one more thing that I should have mentioned to you in that blog. Please forgive me?🙏  It's one simple question that I learned to ask God repeatedly every day and it helped me so much in mothering my kids.  That question was, God help me?  So, if I was getting off from work, I would ask, “God help me transition from corporate America to now being Trinity’s Mother.” I did this not only for Trinity, but for each of my kids. I did it so much that one day, I realized that it was working. My daughter recently told me, "Ma, you don't even yell anymore." Praise God! Now on to what I must tell you this month!  So, my Husband, who was then just my friend decided to not introduce himself to m...

It's been quite some time ago, maybe 6 months I had been praying to God for wisdom on how to raise and relate to my then 14 year old daughter. Trinity is her name. When she was born they thought that there was a slight possibility that she was at risk for Downs Syndrome. At the age of 12 she was diagnosed with scoliosis. Despite, the obstacles this child is amazingly brilliant with a side of roll your eyes and a lot of sass all accentuated with beauty. She will pop a facial expression off at you in 1 hot minute, 😀😁😂😄😣😲😒😯😝😞 and then say, "What, I can't help it!" Many of you know that it is sometimes extremely hard to relate to a hormonal teenager. If my memory is correct, I was an awful teenage daughter, in terms of expressing myself. I was MOODY and you'd better not talk to me. I was in my room most of the time. So, I was cleaning Trinity's room one day and I saw her journal. This wasn't the first time I'd noticed it in it's place. ...